This is what Trump and his supporters just don’t understand.

I had to have a late term abortion. It was the worst moment in my life. What made it even worse was the State of Utah had made it illegal. I had one dead twin. The other had severe Spina Bifida, and would only have lived with life support, in great pain, for a few days.

I lay on the hospital floor, bawling hysterically, for twelve hours, waiting for an ethics committee of the health care corporation to decide my case justified what had to be done. My health was in danger due to the dead fetus. My husband and I consulted our LDS Bishop, who assured me I needed to do what I had to do, that it was even within LDS guidelines to do so. He reminded me I had six kids at home who needed their mother to live.

The abortion was terrible. It was done very gently, by Caesarean section, leaving the babies in their amniotic sacs. The living baby passed very quickly.

It was horrific. I think it even affected my dear physician, as he had never had to end a pregnancy before. I developed PTSD for which I had to be treated for years, mostly because of the fact I had to have it at all.

No woman should have to have the state have a say in the most painful decision she will ever make. Nobody is tearing babies apart in late term. They are always humanely done, only in situations where there is a non-viable or severely defective fetus and/or the mother’s health is at risk.

Please don’t vote for a candidate or a party that would make these decisions for the women who will die or be forced to carry unviable fetuses to term. This is a decision that is so painful and so terrible. Only the parents of the baby and a physician should be involved in the decision.


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Special thanks to Alyson Draper for having the courage to share her story.

6 thoughts on “This is what Trump and his supporters just don’t understand.”

  1. That’s the problem – too many people think the face of the woman getting an abortion is a party girl, barely old enough to be legal, who has to end an inconvenient problem so that she can fully focus on her career or get back to the party circuit while she still can. They don’t hear the stories of the regular women who have to make the toughest decision of her life knowing full well that she will forever be judged as something she’s not. I don’t know if this will help, but in the Ancient Middle East, death was so common that babies that actually survived birth weren’t given names until they had lived eight days. They weren’t considered “alive” until they had lived thirty days. When they died, they were buried by relatives and the parents were never told where so that they would not grieve for a life that God didn’t intend to let live. The old world knew that the only people who died more than children and infants were their mothers in the process. We might have been able to use medicine to stave off of a lot of deaths that would have otherwise happened if we hadn’t intervened, but not all of them can be saved – God never promised that he would see to it that every life that could be born would be safely born; why we think that He did is squarely on us for a misinterpretation of Scripture.

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    1. Thank you so much, Jamie. I have to admit I didn’t really understand very much about this issue beyond the usual shouting points. I’ve been trying to see things from other people’s perspective. It’s not as easy as it sounds, if you’re going to do more than just lip-service. Your information does indeed help. And you are spot-on when you say it is on us for misinterpreting Scripture!


  2. This is something so-called pro-life people never consider. Be assured that I do not vote for politicians who think this way. They have no empathy, no understanding of real people’s lives…just gobs and gobs of dogma.

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  3. Kurt … I would love to use this piece. I am the Senior Managing Editor for the online magazine Downtown LA Life … please let me know if this is possible and is ok with Alyson. We have a monthly readership of about 5 million world wide.

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